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An unforgettable true story that will touch your heart and make you believe in love’s enduring legacy, and in the power of prayer.
In 1928, 16-year-old Minka was on a picnic in the woods when she was assaulted and raped. And suddenly this innocent farm girl—who still thought the stork brought babies—was pregnant. The baby was secretly born, named Betty Jane, and given up for adoption. For decades, Minka wrote letters trying to get news of her daughter; she kept loving and praying for her, even though she never dared believe they would meet again. Until nearly eighty years later, when Minka whispered her secret, impossible prayer for the first time: Lord, I’d like to see Betty Jane before I die. I promise I won’t bother her or interrupt her life. I just want to lay eyes on her. Unbeknownst to Minka, that very same day, a judge was releasing the sealed adoption records to her 77-year-old daughter. And soon, Minka’s phone would ring. Written by Cathy LaGrow (Minka’s granddaughter), The Waiting brings three generations of this most unusual family together over the course of a century to tell a story of faith that triumphs, forgiveness that sets us free, and love that never forgets.

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May 6, 2014
Trim Size:
5.5 x 8.25 in.

This is just an incredible story! It's so moving, it will bring you to tears. Cathy did such a wonderful job showing the emotion involved. Minka's heart torn over having to part with a baby that in-spite of circumstances Minka had come to love dearly. The love Minka had for her baby carried her through many years and kept her writing letters for information for many years. A wonderful demonstration of her love that would pay off immensely in years to come. The hope she kept in her heart after 77 years that just maybe she could see her "baby" again. This book is about God's faithfulness. I see it over and over in the pages. How he took care of Minka, her family. But also in a whole different location, He gently cared for Ruth (Minka's daughter) and her family too. It amazes me, that even with Minka's difficult life and circumstances she lived to be over 100! She outlived her parents, one of her children, and her husband. The other intriguing part of this story is the history involved. One hundred years of history!! You see America and the world changing right before you eyes. When Minka went to that fateful picnic in 1928 she rode in a Chrysler Imperial. Life was completely different, indoor plumbing was a luxury! She watched the Space Age come to existence, went through several wars and her grandson located her by using a computer!! To me, that is just fascinating. You will be encouraged and uplifted by this story. You will fall in love with the people in it. It's a five star book and worth the read! I received this book from Tyndale Blog Network in exchange for my honest opinion.

"This book has changed my life. I placed my son for adoption 18 years ago this month (July 1996). I have occasionally looked for books about birthmothers to read about how they felt, what they thought, what they had hoped. Was it normal for me to cry when I saw a newborn baby? Is it normal for me to want to have another baby even though I'm older? Should I try to contact my son? What if he never thinks of me the way I think of him? It is strange for me to celebrate his birthday every year or wonder what he is doing on Christmas morning? The Waiting made me feel like I was reading a story about myself. Of course, my situation wasn't quite like Ms Minka's but we had the same thoughts before the birth. And after his birth, I cuddled with him, smelled his hair, kissed him and the words I spoke over my son before handing him over were so similar to Ms. Minka's. I sobbed horribly after releasing him. I have written, prayed, and hoped with every fiber of my being that he would one day find me. "Minka's insides were breaking apart and crumbling to dust. This must be what dying felt like. To know that the life created inside of her, the life she had held in her arms--that life was better off without her. To leave the most important part of her behind forever. No. Death would probably be kinder than this." Pg 98. This couldn't have been said more eloquently. I was saddened to know of Ms Minka's passing. I wanted to write her a letter to share how much I appreciated her sharing her story. My feelings aren't strange. I can't "get over it". I cannot forget...and it's ok not to. What a breath of fresh air and Cathy LaGrow--what a great gift you have been given to share the life of your precious grandmother. Thank you! If this book was only for me--to open my eyes to need for forgiveness, then not one second was in vain. I didn't know I was angry, bitter, unforgiving. Now I can forgive him. Thank you!"

"How could she understand it then---that one of her greatest blessings would come only through her greatest wound?" This is an amazing story of faith, hope, and love. When I wasn't reading, I found myself thinking about the extraordinary life of Minka Disbrow. I was deeply moved by her perseverance and strength. Her story is told so beautifully, I felt like I was a member of her family. While in the middle of the book, I wanted to find more information about Minka. Six weeks after publication and nearly eight years after being reunited with her daughter, Minka passed away at the age of 102 1/2. I'm so happy she was able to see these words printed for people to enjoy and be inspired. The Waiting is one of the best books I've ever read and it's truly a must-read!!

“I love you so much, my sweetest darling. I am only doing this for you. Please don’t think I’ve abandoned you. I wish I could be with you every day of your life,” Minka wanted to tell Betty Jane in Cathy LaGrow’s book, "The Waiting: The True Story of a Lost Child, a Lifetime of Longing, and a Miracle for a Mother Who Never Gave Up." This three hundred and thirty-three page hardbound targets those interested in an emotional account of a birth-mother’s angst and heartbreak giving a child up for adoption. With topics of rape, alcohol use, and teen pregnancy, the story would be apropos for mature readers. In addition to eight pages of family photographs, author’s notes, acknowledgements, and the authors’ biographies complete the book. Written by Minka Disbrow’s granddaughter, the elderly woman’s memories are in first person the majority of the book, blending the second half with the upbringing of the daughter she gave up. In 1928, at sixteen years old, Minka was attacked and raped near Aberdeen, South Dakota, but the naïve farm girl did not understand her predicament until her parents sent her to the Lutheran House of Mercy to protect and shield her. Holding her baby for a few weeks before the child’s adoption, she cherished the photograph memento of her the rest of her life. As each birthday and holiday went by, over sixty letters were written to the home for unwed mothers, begging for any information how her daughter was doing. As Minka’s life progressed, she married, had two more children, and hid her hurtful past, finding love and redemption through God. As she grew to an old woman, she prayed one day she would have a chance to see her first born again. Throughout time, Betty Jane was raised as Ruth by a loving Christian family. She married, had six successful children, and many grandchildren. When one son questioned her health history, the search was on to find her birth mother. Seventy-seven years after their last meeting, a mother looked into her daughter’s eyes again and felt the love that had never left. Although each lead separate lives, God protected them so they could be joyfully reunited. Written more as a story than a typical memoir, LaGrow with Coloma hones in on how God is in control, even when a tragedy alters one’s life. This book is ideal for any woman contemplating terminating her baby’s life, not realizing the love and wonder that God has ultimately designed. Thanks to Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. for furnishing this book in exchange for a review based on the reader’s opinions.

I thought this was the most remarkable story! It just proves that good things are always worth waiting for. This woman had an unbelievable amount of patience! Loved it1