Welcome to the club! The stepmom club, that is. But I’m NOT a Wicked Stepmother! is the go-to book for any woman who wants to succeed as a stepmother. Authors Kathi Lipp and Carol Boley, stepmoms themselves, offer straight talk to help women blend two families into a cohesive unit, while maintaining sanity in the process. With humor and a down-to-earth style, these authors share their own personal stories and those of other stepmoms and experts along the way. Every chapter captures a realistic view of stepmotherhood and offers plenty of help and hope.
You’ll learn from a wide range of topics how to:
set up step-systems that work
define your role in the family
protect your marriage
seek and accept forgiveness
connect to God’s heart
Written with understanding and tried-and-true advice from women who’ve been in the trenches, this book is an indispensable tool for those in transition.
Most little girls grow up dreaming of being a mom, but hardly any of them dream of becoming a stepmom. Nevertheless, approximately one million new stepfamilies are created every year.
It’s no secret, being a stepmother can be a living nightmare. But it can also be an enriching and rewarding experience—one that God can use to strengthen you, helping you survive and even thrive in the toughest job you never asked for.
Written by two women who are stepmothers themselves—and know the difficulties of helping to raise someone else’s children—this book is filled with down-to-earth insights and advice for stepmothers from stepmothers. It also offers expert guidance from pastors and counselors on such issues as roles, expectations, realistic goals, organization, finances, holidays, vacations, relationships with stepchildren, negotiation, forgiveness, healing the past, building a strong marriage with stepchildren on the scene, dealing with in-laws and ex-spouses, sexual tensions in stepfamilies, health, depression, stress, and much more.
While there is no magic formula to guarantee stepmother success, encouragement and practical wisdom are available in this much-needed resource.
Seasons of Opportunities
Being a step-mom myself, this book was of great interest to me. I was so excited when I found out I was going to be blessed with the privilege of reading and reviewing it. It is not easy being a step-mother, especially if you gain children who have already begun being raised by the biological mothers, as mine had. Your methods may differ greatly and along with that comes along much bigger issues.
Kathi's book has amazing insight into what being a stepmother consists of, as well as how to handle it as a Christian (if you are one). The importance of God's calling in our lives and how we can use that to help when the situation may seem a little overbearing or out of control.
Her book is chalk full of information, techniques, ideas and so much more for handling minor as well as major problems. Two important lessons I felt stood out to me above the rest were - prayer and communication. Without those two things, failure is on the brink.
Kathi devotes many pages to the importance of prioritizing your marriage, building your husband, respect, and communication as well as problem solving, staying in God's Word, and lowering our expectations of our stepchildren's acceptance of us.
"Step-motherhood can be an instrument God uses to mold us into the image of Christ." "God's design for step-mothers begins with 'one thing' to sit at His feet and receive from Him all He delights in supplying us to live the abundant life".
Being a blended family is a big step for all parties involved! Remembering that and walking with the Lord will greatly increase our chances of not just surviving but thriving in a possibly difficult environment.
I highly recommend this book if you are starting out a new blended family, but it will also be very beneficial if you have been in one for years, or maybe know someone who is. Sadly, Kathi writes in her book, "according the the Step Family Foundation, second marriages only stand a 40% chance of survival, and third marriages less than that". All the help we can get seem important under such a strain.
I was blessed with this book by the author as a part of her launch team in exchange for my honest opinion.