Discussion Questions for Love Kindness
1. In his introduction, Dr. Corey tells of losing his father, whose “influence ran deep and wide, showing up in kindness lavished liberally” (page xii). Have you known people who exemplify kindness in this way? What impressed you most about them? How have they influenced your own life?
2. The author says he “wrote this book out of frustration that those who represent the gospel are often caustic and harsh, picking fights with those whose views are hostile to theirs. In other words, Christians are often starting with unkindness” (page xiii). Have you observed this to be true? Why do you think this is?
3. How does kindness differ from niceness? What role does the Holy Spirit play in kindness?
4. Dr. Corey talks about three types of people: those with the harshness of firm centers and hard edges, those with the weakness of spongy centers and soft edges, and those with the kindness of firm centers and soft edges. Which of these describes you before reading this book? Which of these would you like to be? Why?
5. In your own words, explain what it means to be “receivable,” as Dr. Corey’s father described it (pages 3–4). Think about people in your life who need to receive God’s love. In what ways could you be more “receivable” to them so that they in turn are more open to Jesus?
6. In what way is authenticity part of kindness, as described in chapter 2? What “messiness” or uncertainty have you experienced in your own life? How might God use your authenticity about those struggles to be an encouragement to others?
7. Can you relate to Dr. Corey’s humbling experiences of throwing out the first pitch and being pulled over by campus security? Describe a similar experience of your own. How do we find a healthy place of humility, between self-berating and self-inflating, that enables us to lead with kindness? Consider the words of Jeremiah 9:23-24 in your response.
8. In chapter 4, the author says, “In Jesus’ way of kindness, we can be confident in our beliefs and also comfortable listening to those with differing views” (page 54). How can we enter into conversations about topics such as human sexuality without losing either our “firm center” or our “soft edges”?
9. What does Dr. Corey mean by “permeable edges” (page 89)? How can this help us in conversations with those who expect us to be intolerant or judgmental of their beliefs or lifestyles?
10. The author says, “Multitasking is the curse of presence” (page 92). How have you found this to be true in your own life? What changes could you make to be sure you are “all-in” for hurting people who need your presence?