WEEK 2: UNDERTOW
Chapter 3: Seven Ways We Parents Miss the Boat
(and How to Get on Board)
1. What do you think of the comment that kids “don’t
question that they will receive a smartphone or a car
someday; they believe it is a right of childhood”? Have
you seen that to be true in your own community? Do you
believe that any “rights of childhood” exist, and if so, what
are they? How might your kids answer the same question?
2. Which of the “things parents do [that] they know they
shouldn’t” in this chapter do you resonate with most?
What are some of the reasons you have said no to your
kids’ “wants”? What was the result?
3. Describe a time when “fitting in” seemed to be all that
mattered to you or your kids. What does it mean to
you to “fit in?” Why do you think it is so important to
us? What are some things you would say are even more
important and why?
4. Although it is so hard to see our children struggle, what
might they lose long-term by always being rescued and
never experiencing failure or setbacks? Think of some of
your own best character qualities—perhaps they include
kindness, resilience, patience, or humor. How were those
qualities shaped or formed partly by the hard times in
your life?