Prologue: To Hell and Back
1. Have you ever “adapted” yourself to a situation by pretending to be someone you weren’t? How long did you keep up the act? What was the end result?
2. What did you think of Brad’s vision? Why do you think God might have chosen to speak to him in that way, at that particular time?
3. After Brad describes his children’s emotional issues, he says he believes these struggles were “directly attributable” to the period when he and his wife were separated. Do you agree? Why or why not?
1. Flashback at the Falls
1. For Brad, Bow Lake is the place where he feels most connected to the Lord, “as if I am standing in the presence of my Creator God.” Is there a place where you feel like this? What about that place makes it special?
2. Have you ever judged your child’s actions before speaking with him or her?
3. If Brad hadn’t taken the time to pray that night, what might have been different for Bethany and their family? How does this relate to the importance of prayer?
4. Has God ever spoken to your heart and told you to do something immediately? How did you respond?
5. In learning about Bethany’s dark secret, Brad lived through a parent’s nightmare. What has been your most difficult experience as a parent?
2. Stepping Back from the Edge of Fear
1. As a parent, it was difficult for Brad to admit that he couldn’t change the past or control the future. Which of these do you struggle with more? Why?
2. Have you ever read a book that completely transformed your life, like Crazy Love did for Brad? What was the book’s message?
3. As a parent, what is your behavior teaching your children about their heavenly Father? How does your understanding of God affect the way your children understand him?
3. Parent Guilt and Parent Pain
1. This chapter deals with reining in pride, finding purpose in pain, and letting go of guilt. Of these three areas, which do you struggle with the most?
2. Have you ever shared your parenting concerns with your own mother and father? How could their insights be an “untapped resource” for you?
3. Think of a time when one of your children was in crisis. How did that affect your family as a whole?
4. What’s the difference between guilt and conviction?